If you are looking for someone to “help” you, then I am not the right coach for you. The only person that is able to help you, is you!

All I can do, is to enable you to help yourself.

Your solution lies within you and your awareness, not with someone else, or in someone else’s view, opinion, theory or awareness of you or your world.

It starts with you, nothing lasts, unless it comes from within. You have the greatness within you, it is for you to discover or re-discover it.

You need to put your “Superhero suit” on; for yourself.

When you allow and trust yourself, to the extent that you are willing to venture out of your comfort zone, then you will be able to allow yourself, and enable yourself to become.

Then only will you be able to discover, what you have “not allowed” yourself to discover about yourself.

Then you will be able to re-discover what is in your heart.

Then you will be able to allow yourself to become your full potential.

Then your head and heart will be in sync.

The Journey: 

The journey is not about trusting me, it is about trusting yourself, to allow yourself to be brutally honest with yourself, as this is your journey!

I am not part of your journey, I am not there to help you in any way, I can only enable you to help yourself.

I am only there to be a soundboard to play things back to you, a mirror (without filters) to show you how you look at yourself and the world, to enable you to see what you avoid to see.

I am there to ask you the difficult questions you have been avoiding to ask yourself, or you have never allowed yourself to ask or answer honestly.

I am there to make you aware of the story you allow yourself to believe, the story you have been repeating, the story that is limiting your potential.

I am there to hold a safe space for you, in total confidentiality, that will allow you, to be totally honest with yourself.

A safe space for you to be strong, to be weak, to be happy, to be sad, to be “just the you, you need to be in the moment”, just to be what you need to be at that stage of your journey, no matter how daunting, scary, embarrassing, stupid, insignificant, or profound it might sound or be.

My role is to enable you to discover the tools you need, so that you may allow yourself to be you, yes, the complete you, you were born to be.

Ask yourself, how aware or unaware you are of where you are in your life-journey?

What you are aware of:

                              That you are willing to acknowledge?

                              That you are not willing to acknowledge?

What you are unaware of:

That you are willing to become aware of?

That you are avoiding to become aware of?

Have you chosen or were you forced into the current phase of your life?

Have you chosen to start the change for the next phase, because you were ready?

…or…

Have you started the next phase because you had no choice?

Have you been forced because it is time for you to enter the next phase?

…or…

Have you willingly entered the next phase?

Whatever the answer or insight that you might have or get, the reality is, you are in the current phase of your life, and it does not matter how or why.

What matters is, what you are willing to do, what you are committed to, what you will allow yourself, in this phase of your journey!

There is one thing I have learnt in life, and John Kehoe phrased it perfectly…

“You have to be successful for yourself first, before you can be successful for others”.

This is a phrase that holds so much truth, and made me thankful for my journey to date, a journey that was and is so rich with first-hand experience and knowledge, a journey that made me realise that putting your wellbeing first (in the right context), is not selfish, it is necessary.

Why?

Because…

You have to be successful for yourself first, before you can be successful for others

You have to be happy for yourself first, before you can be happy for others

You have to show up for yourself first, before you can show up for others

You have to be able to love yourself first, before you can love others

Because, everything starts with you.

Living Life…

Life is not always the white picket fence, lush green lawn and happy family scenario, that we so often are made to believe.

However…

Life is a journey, and we have a choice how we want to do this.

We become what is expected of us, this normally come from areas such as:

Direct family we are born into, or raised in...

Extended family we are exposed to...

Culture we are born into or raised in...

Society around us, where we live or grew up...

Religion we are born into or exposed to while growing up...

Schools we attend...

Careers we choose, and why we chose it...

… and so the list goes on...

So yes, just about everything that is not there to enable you to be successful for yourself, is in some way or form, someone or something else’s doctrines or fears or failed dreams, enforced upon you.

This can be done in a very subtle way, or maybe you were given no choice, and had to do it, because it is the way of the family, culture, religion, etc.

What is the point in all of this?

Should we abandon our families, religions, culture, etc.?

No, the point is, that we become aware, understand and realise that we have certain external “self-limiting believes” about ourselves and our potential.

Once we have this awareness, we can understand and unpack these limiting factors, and become successful for yourself and be successful for others.